Breaking the Cycle: Why Relying on Fortune-Telling Can Keep You Emotionally Stuck

Singapore

Nov 5 2025

When life feels uncertain, many people turn to fortune-telling for guidance. A tarot spread, a Zi Wei Dou Shu chart, or a feng shui consultation can seem to reveal what lies ahead. For a while, the reassurance feels good, the path appears clearer. But then the doubts return. You find yourself seeking another reading, and then another, hoping for that same sense of comfort.

If this sounds familiar, you are not alone. Fortune-telling offers short-term relief, yet over-reliance on it can quietly create emotional dependence. Counselling, however, helps you regain the ability to trust your own judgement and respond to life with confidence.

Why We Seek Fortune-Telling

Uncertainty is uncomfortable. Our minds crave patterns and predictions. Fortune-telling appeals to this instinct by offering structure and clarity when life feels chaotic. It promises to answer questions such as “Should I change jobs?”, “Will my partner stay?”, or “Is my luck improving this year?”

From a psychological perspective, this is known as the need for cognitive closure, a desire for quick answers to reduce anxiety. While perfectly human, it can lead us to rely on external sources for certainty instead of developing our own coping strategies.

The Emotional Trap of Reassurance

The comfort that fortune-telling provides can become habit-forming. Each reading calms your anxiety temporarily, but as new worries surface, you feel compelled to consult again. Over time, this can erode self-trust.

Two common patterns emerge:

Dependency on external validation: You start to believe others know what is best for you.
Avoidance of inner emotions: Instead of facing fear, doubt, or sadness, you seek predictions to bypass discomfort.

When readings differ, confusion and distress increase. You may even start questioning yourself more deeply, believing that you are “fated” to repeat mistakes, when in truth, the cycle is driven by anxiety, not destiny.

How Counselling Helps Break the Cycle

At The Lion Mind, counselling offers a different path: one that transforms uncertainty into self-understanding and emotional strength.

1. Building Emotional Awareness

Counselling helps you recognise what triggers your need for fortune-telling, perhaps fear of making mistakes, fear of loss, or lack of confidence. When you understand these triggers, you can begin to respond to them differently, without rushing to seek external reassurance.

2. Strengthening Self-Trust

Therapy focuses on rebuilding your inner compass. Through reflection, emotional regulation, and guided exploration, you learn to trust your judgement again. Decisions become less about avoiding failure and more about embracing growth.

3. Managing Anxiety and Uncertainty

Counsellors use evidence-based approaches, such as cognitive-behaviour and mindfulness techniques, to help you sit with uncertainty rather than react impulsively to it. Over time, anxiety loses its grip, and life decisions feel less overwhelming.

4. Experiential Tools for Reflection

At The Lion Mind, we incorporate experiential tools like OH Cards and Moon Bowl Healing to deepen the process. OH Cards help clients access emotions symbolically, making it easier to express what feels difficult to say. The gentle resonance of a Moon Bowl promotes relaxation and self-connection, helping you listen to your inner voice rather than seeking external signs. These are evidence-based experiential methods, not mystical predictions.

Case Study

A client once shared that she could not decide whether to end a relationship. Every week, she consulted a different tarot reader for clarity. Some told her to wait, others encouraged her to leave. The more readings she received, the more confused she felt.

In counselling, we explored what lay beneath this pattern, fear of loneliness, guilt, and the belief that she needed permission to make choices. Over several sessions, she began to articulate her own needs and set boundaries. By learning emotional regulation techniques and using OH Cards for reflection, she gradually stopped seeking readings. Eventually, she made a confident decision aligned with her values, not the cards.

If you notice yourself constantly seeking new readings or advice to feel secure, counselling can help you understand what drives this need, and how to build confidence from within.

Moving from Dependence to Empowerment

Relying on fortune-telling can create a comforting illusion of control, but it also keeps you emotionally dependent. Counselling shifts the focus inward: from prediction to understanding, from fear to resilience. The goal is not to reject spiritual practices entirely, but to cultivate self-awareness so that these tools complement, rather than control, your life.

At The Lion Mind, we believe real empowerment comes from within. Our role is to help you uncover that inner strength, using both psychological insight and experiential reflection.

If you are ready to break free from uncertainty and rediscover confidence in your own choices, book a session with The Lion Mind today.

Book now: https://www.thelionmind.com.sg/book-an-appointment